Mandy’s post– DEFEND LESS; LOVE MORE (Part II)

A time to keep silent and a time to speak. (Ecclesiastes 3:7b)

Do you remember my post last week on defending less, and loving more?! If you didn’t get a chance to read it last week, you can read it HERE.

I chatted about an alternative to speaking defensively; considering what you will say carefully before you speak, if you speak at all. Choosing to speak in love, rather than a with a defensive approach.

There are however moments in your life that God may ask you to speak, when you don’t have the floor. Like Esther for example. This poor girl lost both of her parents at a very young age and her cousin Mordecai took her as his daughter and raised her. Her incredible beauty found favour with the King and she soon found herself in a position of royalty, as Queen. When she learned that her people {the jews} were being threatened with death she went to the King uninvited to plead for their lives.


Esther had a lot to loose. Approaching the King uninvited could have resulted in her own death. Moreover, the King did not know she was a Jew as she had kept her lineage quiet up to this point. If the King choose not to reverse the edict which sealed the Jews fate, Esther would have been killed along with all of her people.

Let’s be clear- Esther was not known to be quick-to-speak or for her knack for stirring up discord. Rather, her actions were calculated, competent and ultimately costly. Esther had to consider if she was even the right person to speak at this time. At the end of the day, if there was someone else who could have said what needed to be said, Esther could have considered remaining silent. All that to say this: The only person who had the ability and favour to save the Jews was Esther herself.

You can not aim to be Esther with every single situation, every single day. We need to remember that while there is a time to speak, there is also most certainly times to keep silent. Paul reminds us to “respect the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God.” Romans 13:1

You may be an Esther if you answer yes to all of the following questions:

* Am I the only one who can speak to the issue at hand?
* Should I not be successful, am I at peace with the consequences that could result?
* Have I given sufficient time to ensure that my words are not emotionally driven?
* Am I prepared to follow the biblical model {from Matthew 18:15-17} and speak directly to the person at the root of the issue at hand? (As opposed to going to secondary individuals)

If you HAVE answered yes to the questions above, please carefully consider your words and the timing of your ‘speaking up!’ If God has asked you to speak he will most definitely give you the wisdom in how to see it to completion. Lace every word you speak with love and respect; that is truly important. You will not find favour if you attempt to make your point by ‘barking’.

Most gracious Heavenly Father, I pray a special prayer for those sisters who have been called to ‘go uninvited’ and speak when they don’t have the floor. I pray that you will fill their hearts with peace and their minds with your wisdom, knowledge and truth to appropriately carry out what you have called them to do. If this is a time when they should speak, I pray that you would confirm this in every way. Likewise, if this is a time to keep silent I pray that you will make that path clear as well. Help us to obediently follow your will and please bless our decisions to actively serve you however that looks for us personally. I ask this in your precious and holy name, Amen.


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