{Marriage} Do we sink or do we swim?

May 2011 - November 2011 281

By Cindy Morrone

“When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.” (Isaiah 43:2)

It was the end of the day and we were both exasperated. We were tired physically, mentally and spiritually from the demands of the day. Throughout the day, we helped each other in the everyday. I taught; he prepared lunch; I cleaned; he did some yard work; I made supper; he cleaned up after us. We both disciplined. It was working; there was teamwork and the tasks were all successfully getting done. The schedule was met and the lists were checked.

But all along the way, were massive waves of hurdles that we jumped and jumped; sometimes jumping them together and sometimes alone, while the other cheered on. But, they just kept on coming and finally interrupted successful task completion.

Well by then, we were both so tired that we couldn’t do anything but start to sink…. the buddy system was no longer working.

Until….before we did anything else….we invited Another.

We prayed together. Yup! Right then and there in the wave hurdle jumping race!

We didn’t ‘feel’ like praying; it seemed too late. We weren’t in the right ‘frame of mind’ to approach our Almighty God. But we did anyway, knowing that none of those things were prerequisites from our Abba, Father.

It seems that we do well meeting with our Lord in our individual times; we are consistent and dedicated. We also pray for one another regularly. But it seems that we could, more often, go to our Lord as a couple before the race has even started.

We realize that in those times when we are both running out of endurance, it is because as a married couple we have tried to rely just on our ‘coupleness’. That if, we just work together, have the same daily goals, cheer each other on, that somehow that will be enough. But we haven’t gone to the One that gives us strength. We have not asked the One who provides love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control (Galatians 5:22).

Forgive us Lord.

Oh, we are learning. Imagine what we could do as a couple, if we first in our everyday invited the Lord to join our team. I know that by the end of our days, as we remained in Him, we would be filled up to have enough gumption to finish the race in victory and celebrate!


Dear Heavenly and Gracious Father,

Thank You Lord for the gift of marriage. Lord, God help us as a married couple to hunger after You; to pray as a united couple, as often as we breathe air. To both, together, bow at Your throne and invite You into our everyday as we try to live out married life. Help us to realize that we can have the best books and knowledge on marriage, but unless we have You right in the center, our own efforts will tend towards sinking. We pray all these things in Jesus’ name. Amen.


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