{Marriage} A Raging Battle!

By: Mandy Hill

Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up. Furthermore, if two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone? And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart. (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12)

I have been married for almost ten years, and in my marriage experience I can attest to the fact that two ARE better than one.


I love my husband….but I will admit that I sometimes shift him into the place in my heart where only God belongs. I sometimes expect him to know what I am thinking. I sometimes expect him to say or do something that will bring me peace or make me feel better about a situation. When I am feeling lonely, I sometimes even think that if he was with me….things would be so much better.

The reality is: The God that I serve is the omniscient (all-knowing), omnipresent (he’s everywhere), Prince of Peace!!!

While my husband is amazing, I need not expect him to be the things that only God is. Furthermore, when I am waiting in expectation for my husband to be these things, I am taking away the opportunity from God to move in my life and be my all in all.

Sometimes I make this shift in priority without even realizing it. But, the enemy would like nothing better to sneak in when (and where) we least expect it and swipe the carpet right out from under our feet. Guard you heart, sisters.

I shared with you all on Monday my struggle with food. ({faith} My ugly struggle: REVEALED!) Food isn’t the only thing that tempts to destroy our physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. Today I shared with you how I sometimes push my husband into a place where only God belongs by expecting him to do things that only God can.

What other things do you currently crave more than God?

Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ …But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. (Matthew 6:31,33)

Heavenly Father, thank You for the gift of marriage. Please keep me mindful of when I start to shift my marriage ahead of You. You designed and created marriage; and it is good. But Jesus, please help me to keep balance. For my sisters out there who are struggling with craving things more than You….please be with them. Shine light onto the areas that they need to pull into balance and claim the spot in their heart that is Yours. We desire to seek you first, Jesus. Thank You for all that You will, and all that You are doing. In Jesus name, amen.

Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” (Joshua 1:9)



    • Aww, I’m so thankful that this blessed you Tiffany! I will pray for a strength that is beyond imaginable to keep God in the number one place 🙂 Every time I do my relationship with my husband thrives! Funny how that works ‘eh?!


  1. Mandy beautifully said and all so true. We can’t change our mates – only God can. Mine is precious but sometimes I want something too and expect it and he doesn’t have a clue. My thoughts get me in trouble or rather feelings. Thanks for sharing. Debbie W. (OBS Facebook Team Leader/Group Leader/Blog Hop Team)


  2. “I sometimes push my husband into a place where only God belongs by expecting him to do things that only God can.”

    That expectation thing can be such a killer! Rooting out the expectation that feeds a frustration or a “craving” we experience can be the tool of victory to derail the unhealthy behavior!

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Mandy! Check out my #empowered post here: http://www.groundswellministries.org/2014/01/23/on-empowerment-and-choices/


  3. I love this! I found you through the MTC blog hop and am glad I did 🙂 I also struggle with putting my husband where God belongs. I know it isn’t fair to him and it’s definitely something I pray about constantly. Can’t wait to keep reading 🙂


    • Hey Amanda! Isn’t the blog hop so much fun?!
      It’s a struggle that affects many women because loving our husbands ISNT a bad thing. We just need to have the proper priorities! I’ve noticed when I put God first my marriage grows and thrives…..funny how that works out!


  4. Very well said. I have been married for 14 years this week and started out with so high of expectations my husband never held up to. Thank you for this reminder to keep God first and our relationship always is healthier and happier with Him in the lead.


  5. I was married for 29 years before alcoholism (his) destroyed our marriage completely. I battled for years to keep our marriage together, but, with a heavy heart, I had to walk away. Afterwards, I was in a very dark lonely place and didn’t know quite how I was going to get out of it. But God knew. He heard my cries and lifted me out of the darkness.
    I have to say, though, that I never placed him in an all-present position in my life–mostly because he wasn’t there for me emotionally and spiritually at all. He was not the spiritual head of our household; in fact, he didn’t attend services with me, read the Bible or anything with me.
    I have determined that the second time around, if God gives me that chance, I will seek a Godly man who will share God with me in every way.
    Thank you for reminding me that I must not settle for less.


  6. Nicely surprised by your post as I have never thought of this. I feel the same! I also try to push my partner into the place where only God belongs… and expect so much from him… There is a lot to think about. Thanks for sharing, Mandy!


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