“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” (Matthew 6:33)
Have you ever completed or seen a pie chart that depicts how you spend your day? It can record the number of hours you sleep, eat, do household chores, work and spend time in leisure. In a quick glance you can tell what activities occupy most of your time.
We could make up our own. We would first need to pay attention to what we do in a day. What activities would you list? Is there a chart big enough?! Then we would start to fill in times spent in each activity. Are there enough hours?! After completion, we should reflect on what is observed. Are you fulfilled in how you spend the time given?
Hours turn into days and days into weeks and before you know it, months have gone by. Is there a piece of our pie devoted to our marriage or is that piece missing? Is it more common that we try to slice out time here and there if there is any left?
A day can go by for me without a deliberate thought about how to devote time and energy to my marriage. Most time is spent in the doing and reacting to the pressures of the day. But when I on purpose, in obedience to the leading of the Holy Spirit, lift up my marriage, it matters. It matters to the both of us.
For us, in this season, it’s in the little things. Like when he comes home from a long day, I try so hard to make sure any distractions are put away so I can pay attention. When he calls, I hurriedly find a place to talk without interruption. I look at my day before the end and prioritize so I have energy left over. We intentionally carve out time in the week to spend together.
The more we have grown in our marriage, the more we have realized that our marriage relationship was intended to be of the highest priority only under our relationship with the Lord. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24) So when I reflect on my day at the end of it, I don’t want to have only accomplished the endless and meaningless tasks and neglected my most intimate relationship.
Dear Heavenly and Gracious Father,
Lord, God we thank You so much for our marriages and we ask for forgiveness for any times we have taken them for granted. We ask Lord, that You would purge any time wasters or distractions that we have allowed in. Lord, help set our priorities right. Help us to lay down things that don’t matter but attend fully to those things that do, especially in our relationships. As we sit with you in the morning, we ask Lord, that You would direct our days. We give our days to You! Above all help us to love like You do on those You have shared with us! We pray in Your Son’s holy and precious name. Amen.