{Marriage} Is compromising enough?

By: Cindy Morrone

We have a top comforter on our bed and almost every night there is a fuss over it. Unless it is freezing out, like – 10° F, I cannot sleep with this blanket on. However my husband likes to sleep with it on all the time. He says he likes the ‘weight of it’. So, lately after we fling it on and off a few times in banter, he has laid half of it on him and the other half draped onto the floor. He told me the other night, that if I wanted it on during the night because I was cold, I could simply pull it over onto my side! Sounds like a great compromise! (Oh, I laugh so hard sharing this! If only you could witness the bantering, you would laugh too!)

Is compromising in our marriages enough?

To compromise is understood to come to an agreement on a dispute by each person making mutual concessions. Like meeting halfway; I will give this up, only if you give this up. And in this way we will both be happy.

Is compromising in our marriages enough?

“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. You attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus:” (Philippians 2:3-5)

The words like ….nothing, better than, attitude the same as…., really stand out to me in this passage.

Jesus’ attitude is described as we read further in this chapter of Philippians…’made himself nothing….took the nature of a servant…humbled himself and became obedient to death—“ (vrs. 6-8)

What if our marriages looked like this kind of love; this kind of respect and serving? Where we lay down our own wants and gave sacrificially with no expectation of a return, trusting our true Provider and Lover of our soul to exalt us. Then we would be living a love like Jesus.

“If you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any fellowship with the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose.” (Philippians 2:1 & 2)

Now what to do with that blanket?!?!

Dear Heavenly and Gracious Father,
Thank you so much Jesus for our marriages. Someone to laugh with, cherish and live out love as You intended. As the years go by, I am still amazed at how our love continues to grow into something so deep and tangible, that it remains despite inevitable change. Help us to love one another as You love us; not in our own strength or efforts or ways but in Your Way; that never ending love flowing through us! We pray this in Your Son’s holy and precious name. Amen.



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