By: Mandy Hill
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” (Ephesians 4:29)
No matter how much we love our spouse; there will inevitability be periods of disagreement. Disagreements are a normal part of an intimate union. No one ever expected two human beings to agree on everything.
It becomes a problem when we are disrespectful in our disagreements…. Especially when little eyes and ears are in the room.
Raised voices and harsh tones.
No matter how hurt or upset you may feel, not one thing qualifies disrespect to or from your spouse. In fact, I believe it to be quite healthy for children to witness a respectful disagreement between their mommy and daddy.
The bible speaks very clearly in Ephesians 4:29 about how to use our mouths when we are experiencing a disagreement: “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”
If your child can see and hear that you respect your husband even when you disagree, they’ll be more apt to respect the both of you when they disagree with you. If you want your kids to “honor [their] father and mother” (Exodus 20:12a), you had better be prepared to let it start with you!
How can you work on better respecting your spouse during times of disagreement? How can you better show your support while aiming to reach a point of resolution?
Father God, Thank Your for Your wisdom. Thank You that You care enough for us to want the very best for our families. I pray for my mouth, and for the mouths of my sisters, please anoint them this moment and remove any unwholesome talk from their vocabulary. Replace any ill words with words that build up; words that edify. I pray these things in Your precious and holy name, amen.