For the Moms of Young Babies, and the Soon-To-Be:
By: Sarah Oates-Walker
In a day where there are loads of how-to books, websites, blogs and other people’s opinions, it can be easy to feel like you are failing as a mom. I would like to take a second to encourage you today!
You will always know your baby best!
You will know the difference between their cries; you will know their mood by the tiniest facial expression. When my daughter was a baby it was a clear give-away that if her eyebrows turned bright red, she was about to throw a screaming fit. She could be happily playing in someone’s arms one minute, and within seconds of her cute little eyebrows turning lobster red, away she went! I have yet to meet another baby with that specific trait. Others were always surprised by her sudden meltdown, but not my husband and I – because we know her best!
What works for other Moms and their babies might not work for yours – and that’s ok!
There is no need to ever feel guilt or failure because of it. I had often felt like I was failing because of other people’s sure-fire techniques that just would not work on my children. Other moms insisted certain things would work – and they didn’t. I would beat myself up over it. Then I realized that it wasn’t because I was doing it wrong – it’s because my kids just didn’t like that particular approach. Our families and other seasoned moms have great advice, and we should seek it – but if it doesn’t work for you, that is MORE than OK! Your child will be their own unique person. They will have their own likes and dislikes, and you will learn the tricks and traits that you need.
Do what works best for you and your family!
Nurse, don’t nurse, co-sleep, crib sleep, cloth diapers, disposables, etc… There is no wrong way. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about your choices! I have a friend who nursed her baby for the first few months but she wasn’t producing enough milk, and for that reason she found nursing to be exhaustive and emotionally draining. She ultimately chose to bottle feed, making both her and baby much happier. Others, however, gave her a hard time about her choice to bottle-feed because in their opinion, not only was “breast best,” it was the ONLY way. For us practiced Moms, it is good to remember that our methods are not always best for everyone, or that our ways are the only way of doing things. When talking to young moms, we need to remember that being a mom of little ones is hard work in unfamiliar territory, and we need to be a voice of love and encouragement for them!
Try not to get caught up when others brag on Facebook about how advanced their baby is.
I can’t even tell you how many moms I know that suffer over this baby comparison. Your little person will hit their milestones in their own perfect timing! They will have their own gifts and talents!
“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” (James 1:5)
Long story short, God has entrusted your little ones to YOU! He has promised to provide you with all the love & wisdom you will need to raise them – you just have to ask!