Written by: Mandy Hill
Oh, how I wish you would kiss me passionately! For your lovemaking is more delightful than wine. (Song of Solomon 1:2)
Imagine an exquisite flower that flourishes and grows only if kept safety of it’s appropriate environment; like a greenhouse. Within the borders of it’s greenhouse, this beautiful flower sparkles and thrives. If however, the flower is taken away from it’s greenhouse it begins to wither up and the beauty it once had is much less recognizable.
Sex is like that exquisite flower; it’s greenhouse, a marriage. If kept within the borders of marriage sex is unimaginably beautiful. If however, sex is taken to a place outside of marriage, the beauty that God intended for sex begins to wither and fade.
God wants for us to enjoy our husbands caresses, to desire for his arms around us and to take comfort, joy and strength from our sexual relationship. So what happens when sex, within a marriage is unenjoyable?
If you have been enduring sex rather than enjoying it, you need to talk with your husband about it. (Not anyone else, him) Is there an underlying problem in your marriage that needs to be addressed? Is there unresolved issues or guilt from your past that is choking out your pleasure? Perhaps one or both of you have anxiety about possibly conceiving before planned? Are there things you could do differently, or unmet expectations? When you talk openly about your sex life (with the one that God intended for you to share it with); intimacy will most definitely flourish.
Sexual intimacy is something that God created for us to enjoy- so enjoy it, sister! If something is standing in the way of you enjoying this area of your marriage- pull up a pillow and talk!
Heavenly Father, thank You for the blessing of enjoying a sexual relationship with our husband. I pray that You will shine light on anything that could be choking out the pleasures that You intended for this type of relationship and instead show us the ways in which we can protect and flourish our intimacy together. In Jesus name, Amen.