Written by: Megan Kincheloe
She is a chameleon. Her spirit so desperately wants to express the spunky, carefree nature that she feels defines her to the core, however; she finds herself being constantly tempted to change who she is to fit the ‘in crowd.’ She longs to be accepted. She has always been a people person and greets everyone with a smile. Being a people person isn’t the problem…letting that evolve in to being a people ‘pleaser’ is what is sucking the life out of her. She struggles with wanting to be a friend to everyone. That sounds like a great plan, huh? And it was a great plan, until being ‘that friend’ began to compromise the character of who God called her to be. She was one person at church…another person at home…and yet another person at school. There was a particular group of people that she felt so tempted to connect with…but she just couldn’t figure out why. What was it about them that was so alluring? She started to want what ‘they’ had. The clothes. The makeup. The jewelry. The cell phone. The relationships. The unfamiliar tendency towards envy and jealousy began burning a hole in her heart and started to become all too familiar. She knew God didn’t want her to covet these things, yet she continued to gravitate towards them. She started to question her faith and why it was so important to her. What did it get her anyway? Ridiculed. Made fun of. Left behind. Rejected. Persecuted. When she felt like throwing her hands up…God leaned down and whispered…
“I see you. I see your pain. I see you hurting. I see your confusion. I see your struggle as you try to decide who you are and who you want to be. I see you. And I love you. I see your passion, I see your flaws, and I know your heart. And while these things may not look like anyone else’s, they are yours because I gave them to you. I created your inmost being and because of that, you can walk forward in confidence knowing that you are treasured.”
Friendships can be so hard to navigate. When I recently asked a young lady what the most difficult thing was about friendships at her age, she responded, “Keeping them and having actual true and real friends.” Wow. It made me begin to ponder how a young person knows when someone is a ‘true’ friend. Sweet girls, consider this when you are choosing your friends. Proverbs 17:17 states, “A friend loves at all times.” (NIV) “A friend is always loyal.” (NLT) Are your friends loving you at all times and are they adding value to your life? Are they encouraging you to be the best version of yourself? Are they happy for you when you succeed? Do they lead you towards the truth or dangerously close to a path of destruction? Now before you go divorcing friends, ask yourself another question. Has God put you in that person’s life because you are supposed to witness to them and add value to their life? Not sure?
One last thing I want to leave you with is that God calls us to love everyone. Jesus tells us in John 15:12, “My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.” So love well dear souls…but remember that He does not tell us we have to bear our souls to everyone we meet. Proverbs 18:24, “A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”
Megan loves Jesus and is passionate about sharing His love with others. She loves to write and encourage other women to be bold in their faith. God has recently given her a burning desire to minister to teens to ensure they know their value in who He has created them to be.
She has been a Christian for as long as she can remember but strayed away from living a lifestyle that represented Him well. She is forever grateful for His grace and mercy and endless pursuit of her heart, and hopes that her writing will encourage others to press forward in His grace. Megan has been married to Chris for 10 years and has 2 awesome children, Graycie and Colt.