Written by: Megan Kincheloe
Every decision you make matters. These were words I heard spoken to a young man by his mother during a conversation about life. They are words I wish were spoken to me in my youth. Every single day you are faced with decision after decision and have to make choice after choice. You have to choose what to wear, how to respond, who you spend time with, what to eat, whether to exercise, and how you want to spend your time. These are just a few instances that demand a selection. And how you choose to respond…counts.
These selections are not always about making a decision that is right or wrong and a bad choice does not define who you are. Your choice does, though, showcase your current heart position. It also determines whether you face each day being filled with peace from doing the right thing, or you face each day consumed with shame. I promise you ladies, SHAME. IS. DEBILITATING. Shame will steal your joy in 2 seconds flat.
Please hear me sweet gals, we are all going to mess up. Making the right decision is not something we are going to get right every time. This is why choosing what you are going to let guide you is so important. Or more importantly, Who you let guide you…
*Are you making a choice that lines up with the truth you know from Scripture? If you aren’t sure, take the time to look and ask God for wisdom and discernment. James 1:5, “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”
*Does the choice you are making represent Jesus well? 1 John 2:6, “Those who say they live in God should live their lives as Jesus did.” Whew…that can seem overwhelming, huh? Ladies, God does not expect perfection. Jesus is the only one who wears those shoes. We can, however; strive to live holy lives. When choosing what to wear, what to eat, and how to care for your body, remember that our bodies are a temple. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20, “Do you not know your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own, you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.” Honoring God with your words is also important. Take time to respond in conversation instead of reacting. Be honest. Choose words that will lift others up and not tear them down. Ephesians 4:29, “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”
*Determine your motive. Your motive is the reason that you do something. Are your intentions pure? Give yourself time to prayerfully consider each decision you are faced with if time allows. And remember, you cannot control what others think of you, however; you can control the character you put out there for the world to see.
Lastly, you are going to mess up. We all do. Be willing to extend yourself grace as often as you need. Making a decision to follow Christ does not mean you are going to be perfect. We are still sinners. The difference when you follow Jesus with your whole heart is that you become a sinner who is saved by grace. Repent and receive that grace precious souls. And remember, His mercies are new every morning.
Megan loves Jesus and is passionate about sharing His love with others. She loves to write and encourage other women to be bold in their faith. God has recently given her a burning desire to minister to teens to ensure they know their value in who He has created them to be.
She has been a Christian for as long as she can remember but strayed away from living a lifestyle that represented Him well. She is forever grateful for His grace and mercy and endless pursuit of her heart, and hopes that her writing will encourage others to press forward in His grace. Megan has been married to Chris for 10 years and has 2 awesome children, Graycie and Colt.