Written by: Megan Kincheloe
My family was recently spending time with other family members and the kids were playing wonderfully together outside. They were swinging and tree climbing and laughing for hours on end. Other than some very age appropriate bickering, they seemed to enjoy each other tremendously and you could clearly tell it had been a while since they had spent time together.
As the time started to come to an end, I noticed the kids putting the garage door up and down. I started heading towards them and explained to them that it was not safe to put the door up and down and requested that they just leave the door up for now. They agreed without arguing and went on continuing to play. The next thing I know, one of the children came towards me crying. You see, the other children had accused her of ‘telling’ me that they were planning to go in to the garage and shut the door to play with their glow in the dark ball. Because this sweet girl was in the vicinity of the adults when I asked that they leave the door alone, they assumed she had ‘tattled.’ The truth is…that saying that parents have ‘eyes in the back of their heads’ is true. She did not have to ‘tattle.’ Mommies and Daddies know what is going on, even if from a distance.
Merriam-Websters Online Dictionary defines the word ‘assume’ as, “to think that something is true or probably true without knowing that it is true.” Hmm…how many of you have been there?
Have you ever been in the room with two or more other people, whether at school or another social event, and they start to whisper, leaving you awkwardly standing there left out of the conversation? Where does your mind go in that moment? Have you ever wondered or assumed, “they are talking about me?” If I am being honest, I used to go there fairly quickly until I allowed God to create in me a spirit of self-assurance.
Have you ever assumed you aren’t good enough? Maybe you have thought of pursuing a certain career or applying to a certain school and you have convinced yourself that you are not good enough to be accepted. Maybe you aren’t assuming at all…maybe someone has told you that you aren’t good enough.
Have you ever assumed God can’t use you? Do you ever think, “My past is too ugly,” “My mistakes are too big,” “I am not cut out for that,” “Why would He use me when He has her,” “there is JUST. NO. WAY.”
Oh sweet gals, do not be deceived! Assumptions can be dangerous. They can lead to a spirit of fear, worry, and anxiety and we know from 2 Timothy 7, “God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.” Your past is not too ugly. Your mistakes are not too big. There IS a way…HE is the way. God CAN use you and He WILL use you if you allow yourself to be used. You ARE enough. He will equip you for exactly what He has called you to do. Ladies, you may not always experience the outcome you are hoping for, however; assuming you will not succeed before you even try is self-defeating.
Love yourself. Dream big. Expect the best. Trust Him.