Written by: Megan Kincheloe
You can’t be everything to everyone. I have heard this statement over and over and over throughout my life. I don’t want to be everything to everyone…but I want to be something to someone. I want to be an encourager. I want to be a prayer warrior. I want to be a friend. I want to be ready and willing for God to use me where He sees fit. But I’m tired.
I was listening to Spirit FM the other day and a song by Casting Crowns came on the radio. The lyrics immediately brought me to tears. Not just a stray tear inching down my cheek…a whole flood of them sprouting out all corners. The title of the song and the last line of the chorus says, “Just Be Held.” It came just when I needed it the most. At a time when I believed I was failing everyone around me. Have you ever felt that way? I mean, I am sure most of you hold so many roles in life already. Daughter. Friend. Granddaughter. Student. Employee. Older Sibling. Volunteer. Athlete. There are so many demands on our time, on our brains, and on our hearts. Sometimes it feels impossible to even take a deep breath.
This belief that I wasn’t adequate came barreling down on me as I read three sweet, well-meaning words from a friend. I MISS YOU. Most people would be very touched to receive a text like this from a dear friend…and I was at first. And then I started to do what I always do. I started to analyze. This was about the 10th person in two weeks to say those words to me. I MISS YOU. I wanted to respond and say, “But I’m right here! Anytime you need me…I’m right here!” But this person knows that. So do the other 9. It’s not that she doubted my availability to be there for her in a time of need. She was simply missing doing life with me on a day to day basis.
I became irritated and tearful and started to list all of the things I was doing for everyone. How can I be failing? I am staying in the Word daily. I am reaching out to encourage others and get them excited about the Word. I am touching base with people every time You put them on my heart. I am doing the best I can to take care of my family and to be a faithful employee. What am I doing wrong?? Right then and there I knew my answer. I am trying to do too much and not doing any of it well. I am distracted. I am overwhelmed. And ‘this little light of mine’ is hiding under a bushel more often than it is shining.
Sisters, we have to take care of ourselves or we won’t have anything to give anyone else. Here are some areas I need help in and maybe you do too…
We have to take care of our souls.
Matthew 16:26, “What good will it be for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul? Or what can anyone give in exchange for their soul?” (NIV)
We have to take care of our minds.
1 Peter 1:13, “Therefore, with minds that are alert and fully sober, set your hope on the grace to be brought to you when Jesus Christ is revealed at his coming.” (NIV)
We have to take care of our hearts.
Proverbs 4:23, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” (NIV)
We have to take care of our bodies.
1 Corinthians 6:19, “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own.” (NIV)
We have to be willing to accept our imperfections and the imperfections of others.
We have to be willing to give and receive grace.
Taking time to rest and refuel is not being lazy. In fact, our Heavenly Father commands us to do so. Sweet gals, I am not encouraging you to be inwardly focused. You have a purpose. God has equipped you and me for all of the things He has called us to do. All of the roles you fill are important ones and through Him, we will have the strength we need to persevere. That being said…in the midst of all of the striving and serving and loving on others…you are also allowed to Just. Be. Held.
*I am including the link to the song in case you need to hear it today like I did…